Tuesday, 26 April 2011
Easter
Saturday, 9 April 2011
Could I Be A Bigger Idiot?
The other day I invited my neighbor across the street over for lunch. She is Pakistani and a practicing Muslim. She also grew up in London and since we lived there for five years and I have studied the Middle East, we have a lot in common. She has been so kind and taken me to some Indian/Pakistani grocery stores here to further my curry cooking. I have been so grateful and enjoying all the great curry and Indian food so much that I wanted to thank her by inviting her to lunch. I was so excited to make quiche and thought she would really enjoy it. I had been craving it recently after all so I set about mkaing my quiche the morning of our lunch. Charles does not like quiche so I make it frequently when I have someone over. However, in my excitement to make it I didn't think twice about adding a bunch of ham to it. When she came over, she asked if it was ham in it. I immediately realized what I had done. You would think that after living in the Middle East numerous times and studying it for so long I would remember something like that but I didn't. How embarrassing!
(In case you don't know, Muslims do not consume pork or any part of swine. The animal is considered filthy. The Quran says: Quran 16:115 "He has only forbidden you dead meat, and blood, and the flesh of swine, and any (food) over which the name of other than Allah has been invoked." All flesh of swine is filth and it is forbidden to eat their meat, fat or skin. It is also forbidden to sell the flesh from swine because, like unslaughtered dead animals and wine, it is filth.)
Embarrassing Moment #2:
Abby has a friend in her class that she has had only one playdate with. After that playdate her friend invited Abby to her birthday party. Abby was so excited of course. I wrote it on the calendar and then didn't look at the invite again. The day of the party arrived and I took Abby to the girl's house and dropped her off. I did not get out of the car, just let Abby go up to the door herself. When I saw that she went in, I drove home.
After two and a half hours, I went to pick her up. I walked up to the door and the woman answered and said Abby was just about to have dinner with the family. I noticed there was no other children at the house and no signs of a party. I thought it was strange but then figured they were just having a family party and only invited Abby. I left Abby there for another hour and went to pick her up again. When I picked her up the second time I asked when the girl's actual birthday was. The mother replied that her birthday was on Saturday which was the same day as her party! I couldn't believe I wrote the party date on my calendar wrong and had dropped Abby off at someone's house (who I barely know) completely un-announced AND un-invited! The mother said she didn't remember scheduling a playdate and had looked through all her phone messages and emails to see if she simply had just forgotten. I was sooooo embarrassed!
Saturday, 2 April 2011
Adventures Far and Near
Monday, 14 March 2011
Prissy Girls and Big, Ugly Dictators
Anyway, back to the darling little girls and their adventures. The picture above shows little Alexandra on her horse. She spends a lot of time on him these days and is always standing to the side of him grunting to get someone's attention to lift her up there. (She was a little annoyed at the time I took the picture to be so crowded by her sisters, after all she was just trying to get in some good riding time and they were really cramping her style.)
The picture above was on President's Day. Abby came up with the grand idea of how to celebrate the holiday at our house. She proposed we make a cake for George Washington's birthday, watch some movies about George Washington and read some books about him too. So that is just what we did. I made this lovely chocolate cake (from scratch) with a mixture of buttercream frosting (which we ran out of) and cream cheese and whip cream on top. Abby was very particular and let me know that the cake had to say, "Happy Birthday George Washington." She suggested we put 278 candles on it since that is how old he would be but we decided that might be a slight fire hazard, so we put three and bellowed out a lovely rendition of the song.
Charles then got out some documentaries that we watched snippets of about George but Abby and Sammy's attention span didn't last too long on that one. It was great to actually celebrate the day. However, Abby did note that we had missed Abe Lincoln's just a few days prior and asked if we could make him a cake as well.... uh, not likely!
Sammy was sick and vomiting for a day or two in February. She was sleeping on the floor on a mattress in our room. She had a bowl that she was vomiting in. In the morning, I had gone in her room with her to change clothes and hadn’t emptied the "barf bucket" yet. Alex seized the opportunity and went into our room and immediately for the bucket. There were several tissues in the bowl that Sammy had used to wipe her mouth after vomiting. I found them thrown about the mattress and the "barf bucket" tipped over on the bed. I screamed in horror when I realized Alex had rummaged through it. Amazingly, she never got sick!
During the time that Sammy was sick and vomiting, Abby felt bad for her and cut out a paper heart and wrote on it, “Happy V-day. I love you. Love Abby.” Sammy stared at it all day and could not have been happier to receive it. A few weeks later (March 12) after a particularly long day of fighting with Abby constantly, Sammy dug the paper heart out of the special place she had put it, read it and looked at it again. As she looked at it she asked me, “Momma, do you think Abby loves me?” It could have killed me.
Thursday, 17 February 2011
Who's Your Favorite Dictator?
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You can see some of his female bodyguards behind him in this picture.
Qadaffi laid out his political philosophy in the 1970s in his "Green Book" (which I own). It's an alternative to both socialism and capitalism, combined with aspects of Islam. It is uniquely his. In fact, I acquired the Green Book almost at the cost of my future career (at the time). I was in Syria at the time and really wanted to get a copy of the Green Book. The U.S. does not have a Libyan embassy but Syria does. So I thought it was the perfect opportunity to acquire this little gem. I went to the Libyan embassy and asked for a copy. They asked to see my passport which I handed over without hesitation. They made several photocopies of it and handed it back with my Green Book. A short time later, I realized that my future dreams to work for the CIA/NSA or U.S. Government were most likely destroyed because I now had my name on record with the Libyans....
Check him out in this picture. Wow! Is that the same guy?
Here is a classic!
Anyway, Muammar is NOT my ONLY favorite dictator. There are others, such as:
Yasser Arafat! I used to call him simply, "Yasser." I still own a white t-shirt with his smiling face on it (that looks very similar to the picture above) and the Palestinian flag waving in the background. I have not ever washed it either. I don't dare. I fear the iron-on applique will come off. When I have worn it, I only keep it on for short periods and am careful not to sweat in it. I wore it in college when I was competing in something called "Model Arab League" and was representing the Palestinians.
I remember when I was in Bethlehem and we had just walked into the Church of the Nativity. I had just crouched down to touch the spot where some believe Jesus was born, when I heard that Yasser Arafat was going to appear outside. I jumped up without a moment's hesitation and ran out to see him. There was a small crowd. I was with my Aunt Gertrud and cousin Susi. I gave my camera to a tall man (if I remember correctly) so I could get pictures of him. My adrenaline was pumping and I could not have been MORE excited! I saw Yasser!
Hafez al Assad is also a favorite of mine. I must say though, I am a bigger fan of his son but I will get to him in a second. I like Hafez al Assad because he was the president of Syria when I first visited the country in 1999 (he died in 2000). He was president for 30 years. A solid dictator. I remember driving through a very uninhabited part of Syria where there was literally desert as far as you could see and spotting in the distance a statue of Hafez waving. I found it so peculiar that there would be a statue so far out and in the middle of no where that I was intrigued.
I still own a heart-shaped key chain with a picture of Hafez al Assad on one side and his son, Bashar al Assad on the other side.
I got the privilege to return to Syria after Hafez had died and was able to go to his hometown of Qardaha and see where he was buried along with his son Basil who was supposed to be his successor until he died in a car accident.
This is the son of Hafez al Assad, his name is Bashar al Assad. (Isn't his wife hot? More about her in a minute.) He came to power in 2000 after his father died. I became obsessed with Bashar when I found out his father had died. I read article after article and wondered what kind of leader Bashar would be. I had high hopes that he would bring great change to Syria because he was not groomed to be the president after his father. Originally it was his older brother Basil (like I mentioned previously). Bashar initially was going to be an eye doctor and had been educated in London. I believe that is when he met his wife, Asma who is a British-born Sunni Muslim. She had worked for JP Morgan and Deutsche Bank. She is well-known for her high fashion sense.
When I returned to Syria in 2001. Our group got to know a prominent Syrian businessman who kept telling us he would try and get us an opportunity to meet the president. I was so overcome with excitement I could hardly contain myself. I thought about how great it would be all the time. I wanted to meet Bashar more than anything at that time. I even had a dream once that I got to play soccer with him. We never did get to meet him but we did write letters to him in our best Arabic and told him about our experiences in Syria.
Ok one more picture of just Bashar.
Next up, a man NOT from the Middle East, Mao Zedong of China or Chairman Mao. He ruled China for 33 years! I first became interested in Mao when I took a class at the University of Utah on Chinese Politics. I ended up doing my senior thesis on how the United States sold weapons to Israel who then sold them to China. Those weapons were then used against the United States when they were defending Taiwan. A viscious little cycle. I must admit, I know I learned a lot about him in that class and how he mobilized the peasants and something about the Red Army and the long march but I don't remember much. Whatever I learned, it has stuck in my mind that I thought he was pretty fascinating. I have never been to China. He died the year I was born so there was no possibility of meeting him either. But for some reason, I have held on to him as one of my favorites.
Last but not least, Fidel Castro of Cuba. (Why is he so sad in this picture? I know not.) He was in office an astounding 45 years! I became interested in Castro when I read a book about Che Guevara while I was in college. Again, I don't remember a ton but the Cuban Missile Crisis was pretty cool. The fact that this tiny country has been a constant threat and annoyance to the United States makes it a favorite. I always wanted to go to Cuba simply because you weren't allowed. I own Castro's biography but as Charles will tell you, I have not read it. I plan to one day, hopefully soon.
Anyway, that completes my list.
Now the question is:
Who is YOUR favorite dictator??
Wednesday, 16 February 2011
Friday, 11 February 2011
Hello Tripoli, Cairo Calling...
POSTCARD FROM EGYPT
By THOMAS L. FRIEDMAN
Published in the NY Times: February 11, 2011
Circulating through the streets of Cairo Friday night, with families packed into cars honking their horns in celebration and everyone strolling to Tahrir Square, I heard so many celebratory chants, but none more accurate and powerful in its simplicity than this one: “The people of Egypt made the regime step down.’’
The overwhelming sense of personal empowerment here, by a people so long kept down and underestimated by their own government was a sight to behold.
Tomorrow we can all talk about how hard this transition will be, how many pitfalls and uncertainties lie ahead for Egypt, but to be in Tahrir Square tonight, to feel the energy and pride of a people taking back the keys to their country and their future from a tired old dictator, was a privilege. As a group of men who had commandeered a horse and buggy bellowed as they crossed the Nile Bridge: “Hold your head up high. You are Egyptians.’’
My guess right now is that there are a lot of worried kings and autocrats tonight – from North Africa to Myanmar to Beijing. And it is not simply because a dictator has been brought down by his people. That has happened before. It is because the way it was done is so easy to emulate. What made this Egyptian democracy movement so powerful is its legitimacy.
It was started by youth and enabled by Facebook and Twitter. It was completely non-violent and only resorted to stone-throwing when faced with attacks by regime thugs. It drew on every segment of the Egyptian population. There was a huge flag in Tahrir Square today with a Muslim crescent moon and a Christian cross inside it. And most of all, it had no outside help.
In some ways, President Barack Obama did the Egyptian revolution a great favor by never fully endorsing it and never even getting his act together for how to deal with it. This meant in the end that Egyptians know they did this for themselves by themselves – with nothing but their own willpower, unity and creativity.
This was a total do-it-yourself revolution. This means that anyone in the neighborhood can copy it by dialing 1-800-Tahrir Square. And that is why my favorite chant of all that I heard coming back from Tahrir tonight was directed at the leader next door, Muammar el-Qaddafi of Libya. It said, “We don’t leave Tahrir until Qaddafi leaves office.’’ Hello Tripoli, Cairo calling.
In many ways, what we have witnessed in Egypt today is the real decolonization of this country. That is, after the British left Egypt, the country was ruled by an incompetent king and then, since 1952, by a stifling, top-down military dictatorship. For the first time in modern history, “Egypt is truly in the hands of its own people,’’ remarked Egyptian political scientist Maamoun Fandy.
And the sense of liberation is profound, or as another sign in Tahrir said: “Mubarak, if you are Pharaoh, we are all Moses.’’
Egypt has always been the center of gravity of the Arab world and because it drifted these past 30 years, so too did the whole Arab world. One can only hope with this liberation that Egypt can now start to catch up with history and become a leading model for Arab development. If it does, others will follow. If it does, the Arab world will have two emotional hearts, not just one.
There will always be Mecca in Saudi Arabia, where Muslims will make the pilgrimage to be closer to God. And there will be Tahrir Square, where people will come to touch freedom. For that to happen, though, Egypt will have to take this freedom it just earned and run with it – to show that it really can improve the lives of an entire nation. That will not be easy, and it will not happen overnight.
This country has a lot of catching up to do. But if Egyptians show just half the creativity, solidarity and determination in the next year of nation-building that they showed in Tahrir Square these last 18 days, they just might pull this off.